Phase 4 – A little all over the place

If you’ve been reading my blog, you’ll know that I’m cathartically documenting the journey of parenting (for want of a better word) my 11yr old son who has a sub-type of autism known as Pathological Demand Avoidance. The latest phase of this journey can only be likened to navigating the various, shifting lands of Enid Blyton’s The Magic Faraway Tree. For those of you…

Passionate and Pathological Demand Avoidance

Definition of passion; – strong and barely controllable emotion I can’t speak for other PDA’ers but with Finn; passion courses through his veins, reverberating throughout his emotions…..positive or negative, love or hate. I’ve lost track of the times we’ve muttered the words: ‘if we could find a way to channel that….’. A passion for animals, word play, role play, justice, music, humour, friendships and…

Phase 3 – Medication, deprecation and abdication

The road that led us to medicating Finn with a low dose antipsychotic (Risperidone), four months ago, was a rugged one. He climbed out of his Velux window 2 stories up and onto a pitched roof. His ‘flight’ response has always dispatched him upwards; trees, shed roofs, car roofs – it’s ultimately where he feels safe and I have to quell my maternal inclination…

Phase 2 – Triggers and the power of observation

I reckon I’m a good listener, and I’m good at following instructions (it’s my ‘thing’) but I lack a depth of understanding at times. For example; I’ve been told many times, that it’s crucial to understand my son’s ‘triggers’. You know, those things that set us off, big time! For me, it’s certain noises like someone chewing their food loudly or someone treating me…

Phase 1 – Eggshells, rollercoasters and a cow pat

Attempting to parent a PDA’er is akin to fighting fires in a storm; you may get hurt, what works one moment, is fruitless another – winds change, the flames outsmart you, and then Idris Elba turns up to save the day with a bottle of bubbles in hand. Day one of our new journey was particularly tricky – anxiety driven, ‘object throwing’ meltdowns, refusal…

Sharing is caring

I’m a blogging virgin, who has arrived at this point because I have  found more solace and invaluable advice from bloggers like Steph’s two girls, LovePDA, The Learning Curve and PDA Parenting than most professionals I’ve encountered (apart from a handful – you know who you are if you’re reading this!). As no two PDA’ers are the same; I’m hopeful that I can add something slightly different without diluting…